Letters from the Quiet Half

Letters from the Quiet Half

The hidden cost of being high-functioning

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Lee Hopkins
Oct 06, 2025
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I. The compliment that cuts both ways

“High-functioning.”

It sounds like respect. It sounds like arrival.

But for most neurodivergent adults, it lands like a sentence.

People say it when they want to praise resilience without having to understand the cost. They say it because they can’t see the hidden scaffolding that keeps you upright — the lists, scripts,…

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