Becoming your own safe place

It starts with the decision to stop betraying yourself. To stop shrinking around those who can’t hold your fullness.

You learn to soothe your own spirals. You speak to yourself like someone worth listening to. You stop asking permission to be as sensitive, as thoughtful, as intense as you are.

Eventually, the loneliness fades. Not because you’ve hardened—but because you’ve realised: you are not too much. You are just enough.

And when someone new comes along, you’ll recognise whether they feel like safety—or just distraction.